Bookshelves/cabinet of curiosities now sparkling like new. Found my copy of a reprint of the 1897 Manners for Men, by Mrs. Humphry (aka"Madge" of "Truth").
"Gentlemen are in great request at five o'clock tea."
"The umbrella is never taken into the drawing room."
"A red tie, for instance, would be horribly out of place [at a funeral]."
"In dealing with bread, use neither knife nor fork. It must be broken with the fingers."
"... vice, thank Heaven, is throughly out of fashion. There is still plenty of folly."